poopie pay matters less if you are happy. You should know that better than anyone, otherwise you'd be a waiter at your restaurant as you've said many times.
The freedom of choice isn't always money or sense based. Still I'd rather waste money and make bad choices figuring it all out versus submitting/settling. Or God forbid having my life determined by a standardized placement test (fallout approach of taking the G.O.A.T ).
Bryce I don't disagree with your sentiments. I will say that the reality of life sinks in quick for a lot of people. They end up taking something because they need to, or move to something they hate because they have mouths to feed.
That bolded part says it all. I would be happy enough to still be working min wage at a record store or somewhere if I was single. Not that I didn't have larger (and even realistic) ambitions when I was single, but taking on a wife and children is an entirely different paradigm altogether. What it comes down to, really, is that you are now responsible for the well-being of other people.
That sounds weighty, but it's far weightier when you are in the thick of it.
This is not a complaint; I feel honored to have my wife and daughters and I would, literally, do anything for them. When I became a husband, but particularly when I became a father, some deep-seated, evolutionary biological imperatives came out of me. Such as
"I would jump in front of a bullet to save the life of this person." It's not a thought process--it's just what you would
do. No questioning, just impulse.
Imaginre being responsible for yourself. Now multiply that by the number of people in your nuclear family and add a few more multiples because somehow it's more than just being responsible for X number of individuals--it's that PLUS taking care of the family as a whole unit.
No matter how experienced and intelligent and mature a person is, it is not possible for them to truly realize, or for another person to convey to them, how different life becomes, especially after children.
Brother Corey can preach on this as well.
If I make it sound all negative and gloomy, it is not. It's rewarding and fulfilling and challenging and scary as fvck all at the same time.