I've been too SH1TBALLZ busy to join in here much lately, but kinda wanna bounce this off youse chowderheads and see what you think....instead of posting over in TB band management, etc. because it sucks over there.
Been playing with a surf-y trio and during the past month or so I've been either getting bored or just more irritated by either one or both of the other dudes. Guitar guy sends me unsolicited emails that are a mix of pontification, music theory homework or they read straight up like "am I cool? do you like me?" Or he emails me behind the drummer guy's back about firing him or what he said/she said kind of stuff. I received another one right after a rehearsal the other day where I was dead tired and for the first time felt like I didn't want to be there. It's like, dude, leave me alone. What really got to me is the text guitar guy sends exactly as I'm pulling up to rehearsal I'm gonna be late. Fcuk you, dude. Then the first note isn't played until 30-40 min. later because these two wanna have social hour and not rehearse.
These 2 guys are just as sweet as can be, so it's probably me? Both are excellent players, the guitar player's tone kind of blows though. The music is well done but basically vanilla flavored 'meh' to me lately, and after 5-6 months, we should be playing gigs, we're more than ready. Instead, guitar guy wants to add an elusive 4th member, and has constantly re-arranged song structures until drummer guy told him to knock that sh1t off, which I agreed with.
I've been working on my own stuff again and I feel like that's where I'd rather put my focus. I rarely quit bands, so this is not an easy decision to make.