Get up early every week on the day of practice him and text, "See you at practice tonight." Problem solved and now you are the problem! 
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Texting before every Band Rehearsal...why?
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Does he seem into it? I only ask because in environments that I wasn't, environments were I was basically just going through the motions for the time being, I would text in the hopes that rehearsal was cancelled. LOL
Basically because it was a haul, and I well, didn't want to go.. But if I was in, I was responsible and would show regardless as there are other peeps involved and relying on my presence.
But a kid can hope, right? LOL
Basically because it was a haul, and I well, didn't want to go.. But if I was in, I was responsible and would show regardless as there are other peeps involved and relying on my presence.
But a kid can hope, right? LOL
I like the band's banter and if they think a joke is funny, I have three seconds to read it. The main thing to keep in mind is if someone is on call and will get a ping when they get the text at midnight because they have to get everything. Anyways, with those situations, don't have a band discussion about something stupid when member X is trying to get some sleep.
Aren't you using formal dinner etiquette rules and applying them to band rehearsal? I would consider it better form to get there a little early to get everything set up and ready to play at 7:00. Honestly, if I showed up at an audition or a first rehearsal at 6:45 and was told to sit in my car, the music had better be phenomenal or the "I don't think I'm a good fit for the band" text would be going out that night.
Which is kind of where I am with my current drummer. I leave my phone on because I have a daughter away at school and want to be available to her and I've been out of work since March so I'm not up at 5am these days. This guy decides early morning, before 7AM-7 days a week, is when "I do my best work." After the first time, I asked politely. It was over some silliness like what I would be wearing at the next gig which was 3 weeks away. He said he understood but did it again a week later. I didn't deal with it well. Band is still together but I'm looking.
In both threads, I have to say that anyone who complains about a confirmation text clearly either has little experience of real life, or has unrealistic expectations for how everyone else should experience real life. Which, to be quite honest, is a common phenomenon here on the internet, along with the internet literalist. Combine the two and uh-oh.
It's possible they are wanting the answer to be "no".
But, all in all I think it's not a bad idea to confirm. You never know.
But, all in all I think it's not a bad idea to confirm. You never know.
I am sure, next week, someone on TB is going to post a thread about something that has already been discussed in depth on a weekly basis.
No need to text me.
No need to text me.
If you have an iphone, in Settings->Focus you can set a do not disturb time and either block all calls and texts except for a list of people or block from a list of people. I'm sure Android has something similar.
I host band rehearsals, and there's some setup involved for me,
but I've got things ready well before rehearsal time.
I'm fine if/when someone comes a bit early.
Problem with my crew is they come, sit at the umbrella table (right outside the door) and chat 'till 30 or more minutes PAST start time, lol...
Needless to say, the “hang” is very strong with this band.
Texting "are we still on for tonight" is considered a soft check, whether it's for a date or practice. The other party is either wanting to bail but not to seem rude, or feeling insecure and concerned that YOU want to bail but don't want to be rude. The text is to either get reassurance or offer both of you a gentle get-out clause.
At thirty muttermutter something I have been bridging the digital divide for a good while now and understand that group chat culture is not for everybody. Personally I quite like being able to pop whatever nonsense just ran through my head into the band chat under the assumption they will also be amused, but I get that my parents will not understand if I casually text them the same way so I keep it to phone calls and visits.
At thirty muttermutter something I have been bridging the digital divide for a good while now and understand that group chat culture is not for everybody. Personally I quite like being able to pop whatever nonsense just ran through my head into the band chat under the assumption they will also be amused, but I get that my parents will not understand if I casually text them the same way so I keep it to phone calls and visits.
Or...they are just checking to see if practice is happening tonight.
Or you can just put the phone under a box, so the little "ping" of an incoming text doesn't wake you up but an actual ring tone does.
Every band I've been in has had an open door policy for rehearsal nights. You can get there early, set up and chit chat until start time.
Man! I thought being in a band was supposed to be fun. I am really hoping for a rehearsal in the next couple of weeks. Everyone in our group is extremely busy right now but we are tentatively scheduled to rehearse on 9-16 (Rosh Hashanah). I will be ecstatic to get the confirmation email. I'm still smiling from the last rehearsal because we covered so many new tunes. It felt almost magical and I sincerely mean that.
If you're not getting pumped and looking forward to Rehearsing then maybe it's time to look for something more exciting.
If you're not getting pumped and looking forward to Rehearsing then maybe it's time to look for something more exciting.
Occam's razor says this is probably the case.
Or we can get in the weeds with pop psychology on someone we nothing about.
I understand, but I personally think the etiquette goes both ways.
If I am hosting the musicians, I don't mind people respecting the process enough to be early, it shows much more respect than being late. 'Show up, load in, set up' etc even if minimal, is a relevant need to be accommodated by a host to support rehearsing on time.
This is predicated with the understanding that all rehearsal situations are different, some have backline, drums, PA pre-setup etc.
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