We are a large band and communicate by email (by agreement). One day before a practice or gig the BL sends out an email reminding us of where/when. The adults are expected to know what to do. Never a problem.
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Texting before every Band Rehearsal...why?
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I'll step-up and kick the beehive here
: As you know, a lot of TB folks are sticklers for the difference between "practice" and "rehearse". I get their point but personally don't ever see a need to post about the distinction. The "don't need to rehearse" folks are saying they're busy people, and as accomplished players they don't need to "rehearse", "except to work up new arrangements" or whatever. Cool.I'm fine with committing to a weekly rehearsal, though not always looking forward to it, I'm almost always GLAD afterward because new things happen. Just last week as we're walking out and some are apologizing for not having done as much prep as they felt they should/should have because "where does the time go..." we were also agreeing that we do a pretty good job winging it on new arrangements and that process IN ITSELF is fun and productive: The creativity (and joy) is enhanced by the spontaneity that comes with being a little bit ill-prepared.
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We were going to name our band 6:19 because every day of practice, someone would throw out "what time is everyone gonna make it". 6:19 became the de facto response. Yeah, we text like 14 yr old school girls.
my band texts in the group chat all day. we are friends. I’m going to text it right now and tell them about this post.
Everyone’s brain is built differently from everyone else’s. Maybe they have a lot going on outside the sole point of interaction you have with them. Maybe they have a busy family and/or a busy job. Maybe they tend to forget what day of the week it is (oh, *Tomorrow* is Thursday! Yay, band practice!). Maybe they have high anxiety around missing dates. Maybe their head is full of bouncing balls all the time and they have a hard time listening to voices drone on. Maybe you mumble. Maybe you don’t make eye contact. Maybe the post-practice communication about next practice isn’t as good as you think it is.
If the worst thing that comes of your relationship with this person is that you have to answer the same damned text every damned week, I’d say you’re ahead of the game. They could instead be narcissistic, egotistic, abusive, substance-abusive, or any one or more of a number of traditionally problematic personality traits. It’s even possible you have one or two of those traits and don’t know it and maybe they tune you out. Nobody here knows.
Send a weekly preemptive text to everyone that band practice is tomorrow just to confirm everyone is still good? Easy fix.
If the worst thing that comes of your relationship with this person is that you have to answer the same damned text every damned week, I’d say you’re ahead of the game. They could instead be narcissistic, egotistic, abusive, substance-abusive, or any one or more of a number of traditionally problematic personality traits. It’s even possible you have one or two of those traits and don’t know it and maybe they tune you out. Nobody here knows.
Send a weekly preemptive text to everyone that band practice is tomorrow just to confirm everyone is still good? Easy fix.
I'm with you on people making the distinction and I'm guilty of it, myself (although, I don't think I've ever done it here; just in my private life).
I am a lover of languages. So, I can be a bit pedantic (according to some people).
I highlighted your last paragraph because I am with you 150% on that sentiment.
Well, OP spends a lot of time ginning up new complaints about this band as well as other bands. Including recycling this same complaint after the last 250+ responses didn't satisfy. Need a Chesterfield?
Nothing wrong with that, I do it all the time, as adults we know things can change from one moment to other (work, family, health, etc.) so sending a text to confirm is part of that...
I wish some of my previous bandmates would communicate that well and verify.
Once you've loaded up a stack and 2 basses and driven 60 miles to practice only to be told "Oh no practice was cancelled today. Didn't John call you?"
No. John didn't call me.
Once you've loaded up a stack and 2 basses and driven 60 miles to practice only to be told "Oh no practice was cancelled today. Didn't John call you?"
No. John didn't call me.
Been there, that's why I always text before rehearsal to reconfirm. Just remembered is time to send my text for our Wednesday practice...
I once had an unreliable band-mate. That completely justifies my treating all future band-mates as untrustworthy and unreliable. /s
It's not a problem unless you're the OP and trying to define it as a problem.
It's the converse of "it's not a bug, it's a feature!"
In this case, "that's not being responsible and making sure rehearsal is still on before loading up, it's annoying me to spend 5 seconds looking at his text!"
i don’t know why it bugs you so much. As for the annoyance, I’ve put up with petty annoyances from some musician relationships that have spanned decades. And as annoyances go, your’s is relatively mild by comparison. LOL.
This is one of the most put of touch with reality posts I've seen on here which is pretty impressive with how out of touch talk bass is on the regular
you should just quit. Seriously.
I'm in a 10-piece that has decided text messages are the way to communicate about everything. So if "hey are we still rehearsing tonight?" is bothering you, consider that I am currently reading about my bandmates' jambalaya recipes (with pictures), and gumbo vs jambalaya talk.
i should add: i don't mind! i like to cook, I love my bandmates, and we have some really interesting conversations! but just some perspective... the easiest thing to do with a text message you don't want is to ignore it.
i should add: i don't mind! i like to cook, I love my bandmates, and we have some really interesting conversations! but just some perspective... the easiest thing to do with a text message you don't want is to ignore it.
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