Blue, I come to this conclusion every time I read one of your often interesting if frustrating threads about the issues you have with various bands: Why not start your own group, set it up how you'd like, and audition others to join?
Yes, it would take more organizational efforts/time/energy on your part, at least at the start. But wouldn't that be FAR better than waiting around to find the band that's exactly right for your needs, worrying about auditioning for them, worrying about whether their covers/originals mix are going to be right, worrying how your personality will mesh with a group of guys who've already been playing together, having to contend with sucky bandleaders, and having to deal with other people deciding which schedule -- for rehearsals and shows -- you need to be on?
Start your own group, and you can largely decide which musical direction you wanna pursue, and which gigs you wanna go after.
As a part-time but "serious" player who has gone this route, I'll report that, in addition to all the above reasons, you'll find that by doing so you can make more efficient use of the time you have allotted for musical pursuits.
Up front, you'll have to find the musicians, set up the rehearsals, put publicity/marketing in motion, and do some pavement pounding to find gigs. But once that's all moving, you'll be better positioned to focus on your own musical output. (And my suggestion -- put your name in the band name, so that if/when difficulties with other musicians pop up, they can move on and you can move on with your organization still intact).
Or you can consign yourself to eternally being frustrated with the bands you join.
Of course, there may well be issues with your own band, but the odds for finding musical satisfaction are much better if you're the guy putting it together.
Just my $.02.