Nah. Kinda funny but also maybe a little unhealthy to have to do that to each other. But, to each their own. 
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Black op money
- Thread starter Oldfartguy
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A cautionary tale, names and brands skipped over to shield the imprudent. . .
A consumer contracted for a very expensive ($25k) custom commission without informing his wife. Black money.
A few days after it arrived, she goes to the mailbox and soon opened the credit card statement.
She then informed him he could either marry that axe or stay married to her, but not both. in no uncertain terms, and she wanted his immediate decision.
It immediately went to the used market at a loss, and I've seen it change hands occasionally since.
A consumer contracted for a very expensive ($25k) custom commission without informing his wife. Black money.
A few days after it arrived, she goes to the mailbox and soon opened the credit card statement.
She then informed him he could either marry that axe or stay married to her, but not both. in no uncertain terms, and she wanted his immediate decision.
It immediately went to the used market at a loss, and I've seen it change hands occasionally since.
the only thing i hide from my missus is my stash of titty mags.
lol. Momma don’t know money? Budget is tight here in California homie. Ain’t no “extra” money.
Nooo Waaaay.
First off, My long suffering wife has not only signed off on any purchase, she has bought some of my gear for me. Bless her.
But... even if I entertained the notion of a gear slush fund, her husband-radar would be my undoing. And the iron skillet deterrence is ... compelling .
First off, My long suffering wife has not only signed off on any purchase, she has bought some of my gear for me. Bless her.
But... even if I entertained the notion of a gear slush fund, her husband-radar would be my undoing. And the iron skillet deterrence is ... compelling .
Came here to say this. My ex spent every cent that she could get her hands on, charged every card up to its limits, etc. When I divorced the piece of trash, she tried to make me sell all of my basses out of spite. Good riddance. Oh, and I remarried to a wonderful woman and wouldn't dream of keeping anything from her (she encourages me to buy stuff!!).
The single most expensive gear purchase I made in the last 4 years was on account of my wife hearing me whine about not being able to play my acoustic drum kit.
Wife: "Don't they make electronic drums?"
Me: "Yes, but cha-ching."
Wife: "Well, you should just get one."
That resulted in a $6k Roland TD27 kit.
She was with me at the music store when I got my first bass, and I've been above board about the three others since. (Of course, all four are Squiers, so even with mods, they still haven't come close to the cost of the Roland kit.)
I'm super fortunate I don't have to be covert about it.
But... Ya gotta do what ya gotta do.
Wife: "Don't they make electronic drums?"
Me: "Yes, but cha-ching."
Wife: "Well, you should just get one."
That resulted in a $6k Roland TD27 kit.
She was with me at the music store when I got my first bass, and I've been above board about the three others since. (Of course, all four are Squiers, so even with mods, they still haven't come close to the cost of the Roland kit.)
I'm super fortunate I don't have to be covert about it.
But... Ya gotta do what ya gotta do.
Conclusion of this exrcise... some guys here are extremely judgmental... a simple yes or not was enough. Instead, some advise me I shoult not be married, other think I'm a cheater and so on... seems like the difference between a simple answer and a complete lecture over other people life is very, really thin here... a sign of the times for sure.
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What I said was very clear, and it had nothing to do with you being a dishonest person.
It wasn’t even a direct reply to your OP, so I’m honestly not sure why you’re asking me that question.
Hiding something from someone is dishonest by definition.
I have no idea if you’re an inherently dishonest person, I don’t know you, but asking me if I think hiding something from someone is dishonest makes as much sense as asking me if I think the sky is blue or water is wet.
It just is: my opinion is irrelevant.
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Oh, stop it! You started this thread knowing full well TB would give it full two cents. It just didn't go the way you thought it would.
MDBass
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This.
The OP literally asks how we hide money or purchases from our significant others: when the majority responded that they just don’t do that, suddenly everyone is “judgmental”.
That’s some pretty obvious projecting.
No, but before I retired I travelled a lot for my career. I received a generious flat rate per diem of $50.00 a day from my employer--ostensibly for meals, but mine regardless of what I did with it (didn't have to show receipts, or justify how I used it). I tended to be very frugal and pocketed most of the per diem money. My wife and I had an understanding that the per diem money that I saved up was my "mad money" for buying musical equipment. So it didn't affect the family budget and she didn't concern herself with how much of it I spent.
I don’t read any judgement whatsoever - none.
I read people replying to your question and sharing what works for them and why, and sharing the context and life perspectives as to why they behave the way they do. It was an interesting original post. No one’s getting paid to do this, no one is winning or losing. Just sharing and learning.
Na I'm horrible at keeping secrets. I can't even keep gifts a secret. lol
Yes absolutely. I have a separate account, but I made sure she knew about it as soon as I opened it.
Here's the deal: Funds from any gear I sell go into it. Gigging funds go into it (I have a day job, all of my salary goes into a house account). But that also means when I buy, I ONLY pull from MY account. It works well, and it keeps her from getting mad when she see's a new bass come through the door.
Here's the deal: Funds from any gear I sell go into it. Gigging funds go into it (I have a day job, all of my salary goes into a house account). But that also means when I buy, I ONLY pull from MY account. It works well, and it keeps her from getting mad when she see's a new bass come through the door.
