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Crazy ex-girlfriend

#143
tastybasslines said:
We have done it many times. IMO, the behavior stays the same. He really called her on her #@%$ but nothing changes.
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When it seemed like my 10yr marriage was heading for the rocks I asked my wife (just like I posted) if she would join me in counseling. Some women think you're alluding that they're crazy if you say they need to seek some help, I just flipped the script.


0riginally Posted by stingray2112

Well I have added fuel to the fire. One thing led to another and we ended up getting that hotel room last night. The sex was GREAT but now we are back together and I keep thinking what an idiot I am.

Maybe I'm into this chick more than I'm willing to admit.

...you were that night :D
 
#146
stingray2112 said:
Yup I'm an idiot. One of the many reasons I love talkbass is the sarcasm that comes with it. If I don't make it out alive it was good knowing all of yall.
Just a side note: I'll be sure to link that NBD thread to this one
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Some people cannot identify sarcasm where it exists. You seem to be identifying it where it doesn't exist. Yeah, there were a few sarcastic responses in here - and rest assured that now there will be many more, given the direction you have chosen - but much of what's in here has been unambiguous: Get the heck away from this girl.

It's your life, for sure, and you are free to do as you choose. But yikes.
 
#153
OP ... this could go in a bunch of different directions, but just in case:

Remember - if someone's dangling over a cliff, it doesn't help them or you if you let them pull you over with them. Rescuing crazies can be hazardous to your health, wealth, and sanity.
 
#158
tastybasslines said:
At first I thought this thread was all fun and games...funny stories of hot, crazy chicks - but this is actually hitting home for me. Since yesterday, I've been doing a lot of thinking.

I started out with one about 12 years ago, a girl I saw on and off...She stalked me, sat at my front door knocking for an hour to let her in while she knew I had another girl in the apt, bought me things to "apologize" even let me do anal to make up for something.(not a joke) It was MAJOR drama. Several people told me to stay away from her, but I was too to an extent...drinking a lot, wild and risk taking. Sex was great, she has big breasts, and the good times were a lot of fun. I thought we were compatible. That girl ended up becoming my wife

Now that I've calmed down and changed a lot (stopped drinking), the behavior is highly present, front and center. There is a lot in common with the Borderline Personality description. I'm great one minute, and terrible the next. A few months ago she picked up my MIA P and threatened to smash it, taking it out of the apt after throwing a glass of hot coffee at me. Last week, I was a GREAT father to our 3 year old, and now I've done nothing to raise her. Last week she wanted to wear her wedding ring again, and now, she hates me and wants me out of out home. It's been this way for a while and reading about it helped. Sadly, I'm pretty sure our marriage is over, but I'm at peace with it. And that peace is driving her crazy. I refuse to give a response that enables her. Last night she called me FU%#^& #$$hole in front of our daughter after I was non confrontational with her. Needless to say, times are a little tough here, but I'll get through it. She fits IMO, a lot of the descriptions of BPD. Extremes. Sometimes, so sweet - a good mother, pretty, and others...

I ignored the warning signs. I was idealistic. Let this be a lesson to you boys, I married one and am paying the price right now. If I knew then what I know now, even a little sign would have made me run. Pay attention.
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Since you have to parent with her I can't recommend enough this book:

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0399536213/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?qid=1373951489&sr=8-1&pi=SL75

It will help you understand how to communicate with, and set boundaries around a boarderline.
 
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#159
stingray2112 said:
Well I have added fuel to the fire. I got so annoyed by her texts, emails and phone calls I agreed to meet up with her (just as friends) and talk about things. One thing led to another and we ended up getting that hotel room last night. The sex was GREAT but now we are back together and I keep thinking what an idiot I am.

I know people deserve second chances and she agreed to work on everything we discussed. I was thinking back today and I've come to the conclusion that I really messed up by doing that. I don't know if I should try and work things out or try and end it again. Maybe I'm into this chick more than I'm willing to admit.
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This thread is starting to develop some potential - it could end up being as good as the one about powderfinger's cousin's karaoke addiction.
 
#160
I love this thread. Oh and this.

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