Man, our kids have been kicking football's around streets and gardens since most of them could stand...my daughter has been playing organised club league Gaelic Football since Under -8.
Kids football clubs here and in Scotland hold trials for membership, even in the local Bogtrotters FC Under 8 team, it's competitive to even join the club never mind get in the team....We have school teams all the way through at all levels in addition to clubs...We have official FA sponsored coaching courses, summer coaching schools and camps....neither Scotland nor Ireland have their names on anything other than match programmes.
I don't know what it is about, but it's not about structure and youth systems.
It will help when your professionals stop smoking cigarettes and drinking six pints a day.
I think a lot of it may also be down to the fact that (my opinion only) all the British teams including England played a very old fashioned style until very recently. The fact that you were there at the beginning may have actually stunted your growth in a sense. Watching Scottish or Irish teams, even in the '90s, felt like I was watching football as it was played in the 19th century.