Bingo, difference between love and lust, the OP will learn it over the coming years
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First love broke my heart
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Bingo, difference between love and lust, the OP will learn it over the coming years
no no, you've got it all wrong, you need to show her that you have good taste, place a horse's severed head on her pillow while she sleeps, she'll see that you're obviously a man of tradition, and good taste in cinema, and immediately fall for you
There's some crazy hormones partying in you right now. They will give you emotions and ideas that you would be best to keep in check if you can.
Sorry, but this is just chemical/biological, and it will sort itself out in about five years.
By that time you may have the gumption to just go up and ask her out directly.
Sorry, but this is just chemical/biological, and it will sort itself out in about five years.
By that time you may have the gumption to just go up and ask her out directly.
Partyin', partyin' (Yeah) Partyin', partyin' (Yeah) Fun, fun, fun, fun Lookin' forward to the weekend.
Friday is affecting me.
Imagine if it were. Oh goodness. Things would be getting pretty ugly for OP.
It sucks that your first crush ended so badly but the way you handled it was not ideal. But you can hopefully learn from it before making the same mistake too many times.
If it's any consolation, you probably weren't actually in love and when you do get your heart broken by somebody that you truly love, it will make you wonder how you got so worked up over this. It's a lot worse.
Just so we're clear....you are aware that knocking on the door of a girl you met at a shindig for days on end without a response and then pedaling toward her with the full force of your 15-year-old horniness and calling her a ***** for responding negatively is completely the wrong course of action, correct?
Just so we're clear. I've been 15 too. Just about all of the most awkward, embarrassing and dumb things I've ever done were at that age. Your hormones will level out, you'll learn the difference between "love" and "woody," and you'll learn how to interact with the wimmenz without being weird and all stalkery about it
Oh, don't worry, I've been there. It's weird how teenagers think they've found "the one" before they've had a chance to see what else is out there. It's just frivolity to imagine that someone you date when you're 16 or 18 is going to be around the rest of your life. At that age, even your own identity isn't established, so how do you know what you really like in a mate?
That said, I do know a few couples who married their high school sweethearts, so what the heck. The problems usually arise when one or the other turns 21 and wants to go out and "have fun." Sometimes it happens a little later, but it happens. I think 25 is a good age to start thinking about "permanent" relationships.
Ive always hated fishing. Anyways, what am I supposed to do with a fish? Sell it?
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Put it in a box on a hot summer day and leave it on the doorsteps of the person who broke your heart.
But my heart is fully intact, else Id have trouble circulating all this lifeforce within me.
+1. Honestly, nothing could have been gained by knocking on her door. NOTHING. Ballsy move, but... That is a guaranteed awkward moment. Girls don't like awkward moments. Nobody likes awkward moments. With girls, you have to think things out. "If I say/do this, could there be some freak way that she takes it the wrong way?" Because let me tell you something: THEY WILL. Not because they're trying to be mean to you, or that they are in any way immoral, but girls are more sensitive than guys, and you will learn that. With relationships, ALWAYS look at the cause, and what the possible effects are.
Try getting to know a girl like the back of your hand, finding out she has the same life goals as you, texting her all the time, her texting you all the time, laughing together, working together and generally having a blast together and then she just wants to be friends! Now that sucks!
But then again if it had worked out I wouldnt be with my current GF, totally worth the heartbreak.
First off all, I would like to thank everyone for their support. I'm grateful to guys like Ziltoid for his sarcastic criticism(no sarcasm here, honestly, thanks) and people like VeganThump who understand me.
As this thread is growing, I would like to tell the rest of the story...
Just after that awkward street situation, I went home and told the story to my dad, as I was afraid she could have told her parents about my "desires". He gave me that dad type of "stop being a *****" pat on the back thing, and told me: "I bet she does everything with guys, and then puts everything on the guy stating that he did it. Don't you ever mess with her, she will get you in some deep ****." After a couple of hours I went to our mutual friend, who is a great guy by the way. We had an open conversation on his doorstep, and he told me that she has done it with a plenty of guys before and that the guys had some serious problems. I'm so glad he told me. That saved my ***. I was so disappointed and sad though, cause I still liked her, while at the same time thinking "What a dirty ***** have I come across with?" I was totally fine the next day, though.
As this thread is growing, I would like to tell the rest of the story...
Just after that awkward street situation, I went home and told the story to my dad, as I was afraid she could have told her parents about my "desires". He gave me that dad type of "stop being a *****" pat on the back thing, and told me: "I bet she does everything with guys, and then puts everything on the guy stating that he did it. Don't you ever mess with her, she will get you in some deep ****." After a couple of hours I went to our mutual friend, who is a great guy by the way. We had an open conversation on his doorstep, and he told me that she has done it with a plenty of guys before and that the guys had some serious problems. I'm so glad he told me. That saved my ***. I was so disappointed and sad though, cause I still liked her, while at the same time thinking "What a dirty ***** have I come across with?" I was totally fine the next day, though.
