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Getting Girls HELP!!!!!!
- Thread starter unclejam
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1/2 your brain!
No matter how old a guy is, part of him is always mentally 15.
You say that like it's a BAD thing.
funkybassplayer
Commercial User
you are a bassist!!! i don't see why you are having any trouble getting the ladies. just tell the one you like to have a seat on top of you bass cab and then play her a little song. it really doesn't matter what song you play either as long as you can make that cab shake.
No matter how old a guy is, part of him is always mentally 15.
And with some guys, not just mentally
jive1
Commercial User
Here's my theory on the wedding ring, that's been reinforced by conversations I've had with women.
A good number of women who flirt and seek attention from men, don't have sex as their end goal. They just seek the attention and affirmation. Sometimes, they just want to talk for the sake of talking. Sure, some seek a fling, but not the majority. Men tend to have affairs with strangers, women tend to have affairs with people they know.
A married guy is seen as a safe flirt. Women can talk to them, tempt them, get compliments from them, and get other attention, and then at the end of the night they walk the girl to their car and go home. Not to say there aren't married guys who would take it further, but the girls who flirt with married guys (especially the older ones) usually can tell the ones who are a safe flirt vs. a lech. Also, the married guys who are looking for affairs tend not to wear their rings when they go out.
Also, a married guy doesn't seem as desperate as some single guys are in the scene. Since they are married, it is assumed they know to some degree how to deal with a woman. Also in flirtation with a married guy, their is assumed to be less expecations out of the interaction than with a single guy.
I will agree that a wedding ring will get you more flirtation, but will it get you more sex? Maybe, but I have my doubts. But, in my personal experience, I've never let it get go past flirtation, so other's mileage may vary. Will a wedding ring help you find a healthy relationship? No way.
jive1
Commercial User
In my opinion, any formula other than the numbers game is pretty much junk. May work for a certain type of woman in a certain region or culture, but may not work for getting the woman you want or need.
If you hang around with enough women, you will see that any formula for picking up chicks will be debunked eventually.
For every girl that likes an outgoing talkative guy, there's one that likes the shy silent type.
For every girl that's looking for Brad Pitt, there's one looking for Billy Joel.
For every girl that's looking for a big spender with a fat wallet, there's one who is turned off by it.
For every girl that loves a knight in shining armor, there's one that seems to love the grinch.
And the list goes on, and on, and on.
If you hang around with enough women, you will see that any formula for picking up chicks will be debunked eventually.
For every girl that likes an outgoing talkative guy, there's one that likes the shy silent type.
For every girl that's looking for Brad Pitt, there's one looking for Billy Joel.
For every girl that's looking for a big spender with a fat wallet, there's one who is turned off by it.
For every girl that loves a knight in shining armor, there's one that seems to love the grinch.
And the list goes on, and on, and on.
And with some guys, not just mentally
Because chicks are any better? Put two girls in the same room for half an hour and they'll be best friends. Put a third one in there and in the next 5 minutes best friends have changed 50 times and theres been a hell of alot of bla bla behind each other's back.
Because chicks are any better? Put two girls in the same room for half an hour and they'll be best friends. Put a third one in there and in the next 5 minutes best friends have changed 50 times and theres been a hell of alot of bla bla behind each other's back.
SO TRUE!
Oh man, this pretty much summed the entirety of the female sex. I don't care what anyone says about stereotypes or sexism, that is just cold hard truth.
Because chicks are any better? Put two girls in the same room for half an hour and they'll be best friends. Put a third one in there and in the next 5 minutes best friends have changed 50 times and theres been a hell of alot of bla bla behind each other's back.
Nooooo doubt! Speak it my bretheren...I've worked in bars/restaurants for far too long and I've seen this all the time.
As opposed to Maki's approach, you may want to try elevating
your standards. You might hit on some women, not
girls.
There's quite a few 25+ y.o divorcees running around out
there, looking to show their friends that they can still attract
the amorous affections of a young manly stud.
What do they got the average HS girl ain't got? I'll let someone
else do the list, but the one I met at your age had
a house, An Amex card, a white Lincoln, a fridge full
of Heineken, an alimony check, and an insatiable
appetite for ... well you know what I mean. Life.
And you don't have to teach them anything, they already
know the right moves. They might teach you a new trick or two.
Digressing slightly, my sig will at some point indicate I am
lowering the bar to Maki's standards, being now far too old for
the above ploy to work effectively anymore.
your standards. You might hit on some women, not
girls.
There's quite a few 25+ y.o divorcees running around out
there, looking to show their friends that they can still attract
the amorous affections of a young manly stud.
What do they got the average HS girl ain't got? I'll let someone
else do the list, but the one I met at your age had
a house, An Amex card, a white Lincoln, a fridge full
of Heineken, an alimony check, and an insatiable
appetite for ... well you know what I mean. Life.
And you don't have to teach them anything, they already
know the right moves. They might teach you a new trick or two.
Digressing slightly, my sig will at some point indicate I am
lowering the bar to Maki's standards, being now far too old for
the above ploy to work effectively anymore.
I don't know that this is limited to the fairer sex. Three men
in a room can be just as competitive. The exception to this is if
beer, pizza and football is invulved and they all root for the
same team.
Both my sisters generally have 1 good friend at a time. This friend will change an infinite number of times though.
Seriously though, "The Game" by Neil Strauss. It will spread some enlightenment.
Everybody wants what they can't have, everybody loves to be entertained, everyone loves good honest enlightening conversation.
Seriously though, "The Game" by Neil Strauss. It will spread some enlightenment.
Everybody wants what they can't have, everybody loves to be entertained, everyone loves good honest enlightening conversation.
I don't understand why all the youngins on TB are constantly TRYING to find girls... Stop looking and wasting your time trying, when the right girl comes along it should all fall into place.
How exactly will I meet this quote/unquote "girl", if I am not looking for her? My socks never magically slipped onto my feet when I was sitting on the couch.
This is pretty much the entire point of "The Game". If you want women, you have to approach them; it helps to have some canned material to talk about as well. Prepare a conversation beforehand, be prepared.
+10000000000000000000000000
do not use this book as a how to and do not use it as the end all.....just learn and put it in the back of the brain....something to think about as you develope your "game".
it is a great read and will blow just about anyone's mind...
seriously everyone should read this book....it is probably the most entertaining thing i read in the last 5 years...
dude........
wait......
you are asking why young hormone driven girl crazy boys are chasing girls....
???i think my brain just exploded....
