... I don't make the performance, I want to make the performance better. I don't need a solo, I don't care if the basswork is simple or complicated, I have fun putting out a great band performance. It ain't about me.
From several things you've posted about the MM more than hint that he was threatened by you in some way. Maybe he knew you could see through the deficiencies in the way he was running the ensemble, and it's possible that he didn't know how to correct them. If he's not a strong enough individual to even be able to consider his own deficiencies make the perso
nal changes necessary, or ask for and get the help needed to make things better, then he needed to make the person
nel changes necessary to suit his insecurity. Your offering suggestions was not taken as the helpful advice that it was, but as a demonstration of superior knowledge that he was threatened by.
It does seem as if there were attempts to completely sabotage you, in which case the MM is not only not being a good christian but seems to be failing to be a decent human being period.
The bigger problem in this whole ordeal seems to be the pastor. The fish stinks from the head, as they say. If the pastor was perhaps a little more - supportive?, open?, compassionate?, understanding? - then the MM may be more likely to feel comfortable admitting any possible musical/leadership inadequacies and start moving in a positive direction.
The outright lying that you noted is incredible, but some people respond that way when they are backed into a corner. A church situation should be the
easiest place to admit these types of errors and find the support needed to get redeemed and improve things, but unfortunately that's not always the case.
I quoted the above because it's likely that the MM cannot relate to this musical perspective at all, and that's a shame because the music he is in charge of is surely suffering because of it. Plus, it's not likely he's getting all of the joy of the music he's playing that he could be.