Is it bad to date the lead singer ???

[Thumpin6string]

Just make sure that you always make out at every band practice and on stage at every gig.

 

[51PRI]

I dunno, some might say it worked out OK for these guys, in a manner of speaking.

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Working out as in neither of those couples were able to stay together?

 

[Thumpin6string]

She is way out of this guy's league.

 

[Koshchei]

I'd been dating the lead singer for 2 months now but I heard that's generally frowned upon to date your bandmates is it true?

You do you. Unless your band has an HR department that specifically frowns on this, who cares?

 

[db59]

Weight?

Lol.....and pics

 

[C Stone]

When I was younger our roadie dated the lead singer when we were on the road. When we were in town she hung out with her husband. You can imagine the outcome.

A toast to wives and girlfriends and may they never meet, cheers! Good luck!

 

[Hankenstein]

no

 

[JMacBass65]

Working out as in neither of those couples were able to stay together?

Sure. They sold a bazillion albums due to their band drama. Don't be a buzzkill.

 

[MDBass]

I'd been dating the lead singer for 2 months now but I heard that's generally frowned upon to date your bandmates is it true?

Ask Fleetwood Mac.

 

[MDBass]

Dating a member of your band can’t be any worse than crowdsourcing relationship advice from total strangers on the internet.

Also this

 

[jerry]

I've worked with couples and have a few times crossed the line myself in the 50 years of doing this, like everything else, sometimes it didn't matter and some were messy. My personal bottom line is as long as its kept professional, I could care less what other band members do, we all have our own movie.
Making a rule to never work with people that are in relationships would have cost me a lot of work.

 

[Koshchei]

Also this

True, and given how little money there is in music these days, I don't see how we're really an authority on anything other than how to make really bad financial and career decisions. My only advice would be to find the joy where you can in this barren and rocky ground.

 

[Marko 1]

Looking for relationship advice (tongue-in-cheek?) .....on TB, oooooooookaaaaayyyy

What's funnier are all the serious armchair relationship responses

Ten pages guaranteed!

 

[yainkee]

Yes. So now you’re breaking up, right? You can explain to her that people on talkbass.com told you to. She’ll understand.

 

[MingusBass]

Failure rate for bands is close to 100%, which is slightly worse than most relationships...so it's pretty much a wash.

 

[Axtman]

On a related topic, I will never joing a band where there is a married couple. You are always outnumbered. They completely control the band on every decision. Been there, done that, a few times, never learned.

 

[Ed S]

On a related topic, I will never joing a band where there is a married couple. You are always outnumbered. They completely control the band on every decision. Been there, done that, a few times, never learned.

I've never been in such a situation, but what if the married couple had a solid relationship and led a thriving band? I mean, how many of us would turn down the chance to back up Tedeschi Trucks?

 

[51PRI]

NOT dating other band members was a hard lesson I learned, fairly early on. Other than maybe Pat Benatar and Neil Girardo, I don't think I've ever seen it work....

I think Todd Rundgren married one of his backup singers. Not sure if they're still together, though.

Frowned upon by whom? If it's frowned upon by your band mates, it's something you need to consider, and you probably need to come to some agreement with them on, uh, exit strategies in case the relationship isn't bliss. If it's merely frowned upon by rando's on the internet like us, pfft.

If an in-band relationship is frowned upon by other band members it's because they realize that the band is probably going to be breaking up at some point.

Go with your heart. If it also breaks up the band, so be it.

So to h3ll with the other band members?

Rebecca Johnson and Con Settineri seem to be doing ok. Band is tight.

There are exceptions to (most) rules.

It worked out okay for No doubt.....

It worked out okay for Blake Shelton.

 

[lamarjones]

Don't be the jealous one.

Then maybe

 

[ectoflanger]

I'd been dating the lead singer for 2 months now but I heard that's generally frowned upon to date your bandmates is it true?

Band romance didn’t work out so well for the Fisher brothers of Heart, but it resulted in one killer album by Fleetmood Mac-