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Phone call?

#61
Using your phone for talking is just weird in this day and age :roflmao: I kid ... somewhat.

In this case, I think the request is totally appropriate before inviting a stranger over ... you can tell a lot about a person in less than a 5 minute conversation takes.

But I often don't feel very comfortable using the talk feature of my phone. I have trouble understanding a lot of people who I can hear but not see, unless i already know your voice inflections. and I tend to pace and talk loudly using my hands as i'm mostly Italian, and feel they can't see half of what I'm saying :roflmao::roflmao:

At least we're not tethered to a wall in this day and age :D
 
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catcauphonic said:
Using your phone for talking is just weird in this day and age :roflmao: I kid ... somewhat.

In this case, I think the request is totally appropriate before inviting a stranger over ... you can tell a lot about a person in less than a 5 minute conversation takes.

But I often don't feel very comfortable using the talk feature of my phone. I have trouble understanding a lot of people who I can hear but not see, unless i already know your voice inflections. and I tend to pace and talk loudly using my hands as i'm mostly Italian, and feel they can't see half of what I'm saying :roflmao::roflmao:

At least we're not tethered to a wall in this day and age :D
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This is exactly how i feel especially having trouble understanding people. I don't want to blow this because I seem half ********. This is my fear.
 
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DaDrew2112 said:
This is exactly how i feel especially having trouble understanding people. I don't want to blow this because I seem half ********. This is my fear.
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Your question shouldn't be about whether this guy should need to to speak to you or not: his band; he wants a phone call; a phone call it is.


This might be an awakening that you genuinely have an anxiety issue / problem / constraint / whatever. You will have to take a ticket for the anxiety queue at the local medical center because you will not be alone; it is a long queue.

I suggest people give him suggestions on how to avoid the phone call.
 
#65
A chick gives me her number, I call her, her mind's blown that a guy is actually *calling*. Call her twice, have an actual conversation, and it ... works well to your advantage.

In the first jam scenario, if he has your number it's a way to track you down in case you do something sketchy. Say stuff goes missing from the studio or whatever.

Good luck! Don't stress.
 
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StayLow said:
A chick gives me her number, I call her, her mind's blown that a guy is actually *calling*. Call her twice, have an actual conversation, and it ... works well to your advantage.

In the first jam scenario, if he has your number it's a way to track you down in case you do something sketchy. Say stuff goes missing from the studio or whatever.
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I would never steal man. I'd be rather angry if someone suggested I did because I'd feel set up.
 
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DaDrew2112 said:
I'm going to do it but I'm going to talk to another woman in a much more low pressure conversation for 20 minutes right before I call this guy.
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Be positive. Friendly etc. Maybe have a few questions of your own in case there is opportunity.

You open pleasant. Exchange a couple of things you both are into musically. Answer a few questions. Ask some of your own if you like. Plan a time to meet. Thank him for the call and that you look forward to meeting. And before you know it you're through it.
 
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#69
Insane.
I'm trying to organize a group of musicians to create art together, and potentially do business together, but I'm put off by the idea of having a phone conversation.
Enjoy the kind of wild success you get once you assemble a pack of nonverbal introverts.

If I were the guy the OP was dealing with and I knew this thread existed, I'd cut all communication and bail on this project in the blink of an eye.
 
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I had a guy answer my ad in the mid 90s for a band and I swear it was a Jerky Boy (prank phone calls). I didn't play along. After a few tries to get me talking more or get me riled up, he finally gave up. At one point when I was pretty sure it was the real guy I told him the impression was terrible. I figured it was the best way to get him back. He swore in character and hung up since the call was completely unusable.
 
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DaDrew2112 said:
So I emailed this cat about a band. After exchanging several emails he wants to do a phone call. I suggested that we jam. But he insisted on doing a phone call. He's been in some real projects so I guess he's a good player. But I mean...phone call? This guy lives like 10 minutes away from me. What could he learn through a phone call? I hate phone calls.

I've already given him a lot of the logistics. Like how old I am, how long i've been playing, influences, rig. So...

Any thoughts?
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Call him or move on. Grow up.
 
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#72
Text, in any format, can be taken in the wrong context. Typical sarcasm can be taken offensively. You can be whoever you want to be behind a text - you have time to think about what your going to say and re-read it before it's "said".

Speaking over the phone seems old-school for the likes of you and I, but it's much more professional than any text in any format. You have to be spontaneous with your responses. You have expression in your voice alone, so your words don't have to do the walking.

As far as OP, Your prospect requesting a phone call is completely accepted in my book.
 
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Wow. When I interviewed for my new job I had a 1.5 hour phone interview with the CEO of the company. He was in Vegas I was in AZ. I then Skyped with the CMO for another 1.5 hours. The Skype thing really bothered me. The phone didn't at all. Felt very at ease on the phone, felt like someone was seeing the inside of my nose on Skype, and it was awkward.

I manage lots of Millennials and they never answer the phone. Send a text and instant reply.

I really miss the good ol' days before all of this technology. It has it's pluses but it really has turned a lot of people's social skills to mush. My step son says he has friends, he's never met them in the flesh because they exist in a headset on a gaming platform. Sad.
 
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monsterthompson said:
Insane.
I'm trying to organize a group of musicians to create art together, and potentially do business together, but I'm put off by the idea of having a phone conversation.
Enjoy the kind of wild success you get once you assemble a pack of nonverbal introverts.

If I were the guy the OP was dealing with and I knew this thread existed, I'd cut all communication and bail on this project in the blink of an eye.
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Do you realise that the majority of artists and musicians are introverted?

Extroversion is definitely an asset in the world of business but an entire group of extroverts is far more likely to fail than an entire group of introverts.
 
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Very much a generational thing, I think. I'm 21, and granted I'm pretty introverted and socially anxious to begin with, phone calls are pretty much my most dreaded form of communication.

Something just seems lacking about it... I'd rather either text/email, where you're completely emotionally detached from the exchange, or speak face-to-face where you fully pick up on one another's body language. Simply speaking without any visual cues just feels somehow cold and clinical.
 
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SasquatchDude said:
Very much a generational thing, I think. I'm 21, and granted I'm pretty introverted and socially anxious to begin with, phone calls are pretty much my most dreaded form of communication.

Something just seems lacking about it... I'd rather either text/email, where you're completely emotionally detached from the exchange, or speak face-to-face where you fully pick up on one another's body language. Simply speaking without any visual cues just feels somehow cold and clinical.
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Tone of voice or inflection does nothing for you? I guess they should start making smart phones sans the actual phone part. I'd like to have one that's just a phone.
 
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I won't play with anyone unless I've spoken to them on the phone first. You sometimes find things out which were not in an email or text. I want to get a real sense of how they communicate, discuss their goals and expectations to make sure its a good fit.
 
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DaDrew2112 said:
So I emailed this cat about a band. After exchanging several emails he wants to do a phone call. I suggested that we jam. But he insisted on doing a phone call. He's been in some real projects so I guess he's a good player. But I mean...phone call? This guy lives like 10 minutes away from me. What could he learn through a phone call? I hate phone calls.

I've already given him a lot of the logistics. Like how old I am, how long i've been playing, influences, rig. So...

Any thoughts?
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I use the phone just like the good ol days, its quicker and easier. When yout text someone it takes way longer and I like hearing someone's voice when I talk to them, its the best way to talk to someone other than being in person. Plus your going to have to hang out with this guy in person and you'll have a crowd of people you have to jam to in the band, what are you going to do then, text the crowd of people the song, Hee Hee. Phone call text, text phone call, who cares which.:):bassist::bassist:
 
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