Last time I put out CL ads (looking for a drummer for a bass-drums duo), I made it very clear what a lame 38-yo cubicle-dwelling married dad I was and the inherent limitations on my musical ambitions. I didn't put any age requirements on respondents but I made it clear what they were getting into. I wonder closely the 20-yo who responded read it. We set a time to meet up at a local fully-furnished rehearsal studio. Yeah, he could play the drums OK enough. But he was more interested in plugging in his 6-string and pedals and showing me his experimental progressive post-black metal licks. Which was totally cool, not really my main area of interest, but whatever. So after wrapping up, I asked him directly "I'm looking to get a DUO together. Bass and drums. I need a drummer. You have the skills. Do you want to do this?" "Yeah, sure, let's do it" he says. Okay, so we set a time to meet again a week later, this time in my garage. I'm sure you know the rest of the story… no show, no text, no call. Pretty much par for the CL course. I totally understand that someone would decide against jamming with a graying guy technically old enough to be his dad, on an instrument not of his first preference, in a genre not of his first preference, and I can understand how someone can fail to have the balls to say "no" face-to-face and thus choose to flake out later. I take no offense, really. But dude, didn't you read the ad?
But remember being a 18 yo college freshman, bass in hand, answering a posted ad and meeting up with a seemingly ancient member of the over-30 crowd. Nice enough guy. He was inexplicably married to a totally HOTTT girl about my age in my chemistry class. The needle tracks in his arm kind of weirded me out. But I was a nerdly virgin engineering freshman and weirded out easily. The jams were alright if I recall. But we didn't have a place to get loud, didn't have a drummer… it didn't go anywhere. Did I flake out on him?? Gee I guess I did. Karma goes around I guess!