My long winded, "junior psychologistic" (yes..., I get to make up words. I have a license) response, in full or in part, holds the key to what's going on with your band. Until this particular leg of the conversation, I've never seen you say anything but positive stuff about your band. It sounds like you're happy with the music you make together. It also sounds like you go out of your way to pull him into the fold. We've all heard that honesty is the best policy... and it truly is. The problem is... it seldom brings the desired response (AKA - people generally don't like it when your honest with them unless it shows them in a good light). Just doing the right thing & being honest with someone does not guarantee that you'll get the result you desire. If you're honest with someone, and they respond in an unfavorable or irrational manor... you are better off without them, whether you like that result or not. Only YOU can decide when it's time to risk it. The impression I get, as a guy sitting at his computer in Michigan, communicating electronically with a guy in Winnipeg, is that you'll find a way to deal with it & carry on, and that hopefully he'll get ahold of himself eventually... but remember... you only get to go around once. I spent a lot of years waiting for other people to make things happen. Then I spent a long time blaming those people for those things not happening. Then, one day it hit me. I had spent a lot of time waiting... but no time doing! I had the power to alter the course of my life and point it in any direction I wanted to, but I CHOSE to sit back, shove my thumb in my a$$, and wait for people to put my life where I wanted it to be. This was on ME, and I had no-one with whom to argue that fact. At that point, I had a wife, kids, a job... my anchor was down, and wrapped around a tree. Can't turn back the clock, man. You pickin' up what I'm layin' down bro?