Nope. That's living YOUR dream. Yes, I stopped playing music full-time. And I am currently back in school at age 41 trying to "fit into" this world in a way that doesn't involve having a bass around my neck at 3a.m. 4 hours from home. BUT, the thing is, that shift in me occurred when I mat an amazing woman, got married, and had two of the most beautiful children you can picture in your head. That BECAME my dream. I would RATHER see them than a bunch of bar whores at 2 a.m. most nights. I can still play when I want, and get paid dearly for every gig I play or run sound for. And I STILL get to go home to a nice house and a beautiful family. THAT, my friend, is my dream. Now, in no way am I knocking you for wanting to play music as a dream. In fact, it's my whole point. As long as you are living YOUR dream, you are NOT selling out. Yours seems to be music (right now). Mine is my family. Neither of us is selling out.
The video was stupid. The "point" was stupid. If you are doing what YOU want (even if that's playing Brown Eyed Girl 4 nights a week), making ENOUGH money (whatever that means in your world), and not hurting anybody in the process, then you are living the dream. Anyone who calls you a sellout is a jerk.
However, anyone who sits around recording "their art" for 5 decades riding up and down the road in beat up rusty vans staying in rat infested hotels and sleeping with women who were in somebody else's bed last night dirt poor wondering why the rest of the world isn't "smart enough to get you and your music" just so they can say the never sold out is not living any dream either. Just sayin. (And before you jump, I'm not stupid. I know there's a huge middle ground I didn't cover there. Even as long-winded as I can get, I don't have all day to cover every possibility.)
Also, this is a really great post. I do not want kids. I am indifferent about marriage at this point (I'll be 31 next month) and don't really see that changing any time in the next decade or so. Part of it is just logistics...I tend to date older guys and if they're with someone my age and they're already in their late 40's-early 50's, the idea of marriage + kids tends to be kinda irrelevant. That...and for me personally, it's just not on my radar and doesn't fit into my life's plan...I honestly can't explain it any better than that. :shrug:
Having said this, I sometimes get a little prickly when people imply I'll someday want that dream. Yet at the same time, the rat-infested/dirt poor thing doesn't appeal to me either. Sooooo, it's really refreshing to read a post where somebody seems to have struck a decent balance and understands the concept of middle ground.

