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Girlfriends or wives getting hit-on at gigs?

#202
IMO, purchasing a drink entitles the buyer to a few minutes of conversation, for at least as long as it takes to consume the drink. If I bought a girl a drink & she stalked off with her buddies, I'd be bugged, but wouldn't pursue it any more - consider it a loss of a couple of bucks.

The smartest thing is to check for the ring before initiating conversation & use common sense for hitting ON ladies. The ones sitting by themselves staring intently at a band in a bar are likely attached to the band somehow. No one likes classic rock covers THAT much. The conversation wouldn't be any more than that, unless conversation is the only goal. Avoid that bunch.

ian
 
#205
pedro said:
Yes there was a previous post which was what I had responded to in which the lady accepted the drink and then went up to the stage (I'm paraphrasing here) and made a big deal about handing the drink to her boyfriend/husband. And that's what I don't get.

If the guy has been a jerk or rude than all bets are off. But my understanding was that the guy offered to buy the drink after being informed that she was spoken for and was treated to a public display of handing the drink to the husband/bf. At least that's how I understood the facts.
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Well, yeah, that's not just rude of her. That's stupid! I mean...if he wan't ticked off before, he should have been after that! Maybe she goes around waving red flags at bulls, too?

Tacky, tacky, tacky. That was real ugly of her.

Cherie
 
#209
downneck said:
sounds like your girl isn't firm enough in letting guys know she's not available. maybe she's not into confrontation, maybe she likes the attention, maybe something less benign...i'd talk to her about it frankly and openly.
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+1

A woman who doesn't want the attention should be able to easily deflect it herself. If you have to step in, usually it's because she's not doing much to try and deter the would-be suitor. That's a whole different issue.

If you have to step in because you don't trust your wife or GF, that's even a different issue!

Yes, it happens to my wife on occasion. I never worry about her ability to either handle it or be faithful.

I do have a funny story in the opposite way though. A woman fan was getting really aggressive with me, even in front of my wife, at a gig! In fact, she's going on and on and finally says, do you think I need a boob job? (the woman, not my wife), and I say, "I have no idea". so the woman says, "Go ahead, feel them!" My wife without missing a beat, steps in between us, grabs my hand, sticks it on her own right breast and says "He can feel MY breasts if he needs to feel breasts!" The woman was stunned and I started laughing (it's so out of character for my wife!)
 
#217
I guess I'm going to have to clarify my original post again.

Respectful guy buys drink after knowing my wife is obviously married to me and she said no thank you, he gets nice conversation, she gets the drink (not me), no harm no foul, no one embarassed, happens almost every show, guys usually even compliment our music after the show and tell me that I'm a lucky guy which I am. happy day for everyone.

Disrespectful man-shlock thinks that he can get her drunk and "make her forget all about me", continues to be forceful, won't leave her alone without his special drink regardless of being told repeatedly.....well sure I'll take two expensive shots on mr. disrespectful of my marriage man's tab.

I don't worry about roofies, grocery store handles or unwashed lettuce and I never get sick.
 
#218
After having spent 3, sometimes 4 nights a week of my 20's in bars and clubs, I can say that alot of guys will approach a woman even if she is there alone, staring at the band (and its obvious to everyone else she is with someone in the band). Or with a ring on (theres a whole segment of men that look for lonely married women lol)

I definitely trust my wife, she wouldnt even put out a vibe that she was looking to be approached. But, I dont think I would want her to come to the gig completely alone either. And unlike others, I dont take it as a compliment if she gets hit on...I guess i can thank my ex-girlfriend that would go and sit with total strangers for that.
 
#219
jgroh said:
After having spent 3, sometimes 4 nights a week of my 20's in bars and clubs, I can say that alot of guys will approach a woman even if she is there alone, staring at the band (and its obvious to everyone else she is with someone in the band). Or with a ring on (theres a whole segment of men that look for lonely married women lol)

I definitely trust my wife, she wouldnt even put out a vibe that she was looking to be approached. But, I dont think I would want her to come to the gig completely alone either. And unlike others, I dont take it as a compliment if she gets hit on...I guess i can thank my ex-girlfriend that would go and sit with total strangers for that.
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To each their own but I'm curious as to why you wouldn't consider it a compliment that other men find your wife or girlfriend attractive enough to hit on?
 
#220
6jase5 said:
I guess I'm going to have to clarify my original post again.

Respectful guy buys drink after knowing my wife is obviously married to me and she said no thank you, he gets nice conversation, she gets the drink (not me), no harm no foul, no one embarassed, happens almost every show, guys usually even compliment our music after the show and tell me that I'm a lucky guy which I am. happy day for everyone.

Disrespectful man-shlock thinks that he can get her drunk and "make her forget all about me", continues to be forceful, won't leave her alone without his special drink regardless of being told repeatedly.....well sure I'll take two expensive shots on mr. disrespectful of my marriage man's tab.

I don't worry about roofies, grocery store handles or unwashed lettuce and I never get sick.
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:rollno:that's just awful man... really wrong. You have GOT to wash the lettuce, and all of the produce you buy for that matter.
 

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