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That happens far more often than you would think. I can think of half a dozen without trying.
I know one couple who split up because she wanted to be a dancer. Her ex said, "Great! I love dancing" and she said, "Not that kind of dancing- I want to be a stripper". Last time I saw her about 4 years ago, she was 49 and looked phenomenal!
If I go into a relationship with a woman who knows I'm a part time pro /weekend warrior and she later decides she doesn't like it after all and gets ornery to the point I divorce her, am I being selfish?
Why do people get divorced? The answer is simple; because they got married. If one doesn't wish to get divorced, then don't marry. Problem solved. 
I would say she is being selfish. This is something she knew about going in and then decided she wanted something different.
I never heard of the pill causing that but I may be living under a rock. I do know scent is a primal thing we notice but on a more involuntary level. Makes sense the pill changes hormones which would change pheromones.
Hmm...
When I was in my early twenties I met a beautiful nymphomaniac that was also a great cook. Seriously. She was in her mid thirties and had two children, one each to her first two husbands. The kids were great, she was a LOT of fun, marriage seemed like a good idea. After a while of being married we figured out that our sexual attraction was the ONLY thing that we had in common. We divorced, then ended up living together another year. We just couldn't make it work.
I was single for a long time, lots of dates and relationships, nothing really long term. At age 34 I ran into a girl I had known in high school. (I had dated her best friend.) She seemed sane and stable and we were friends. We married the next year and I figured that we would be married forever. We made it 13 years. We never had children, we both had crazy busy careers, we had grown apart. But I still assumed that we would be together forever. And then I had a major stroke. She didn't come to the hospital. My boss, friends and family traveled in from out of state, she couldn't bother to drive ten miles. I realized that it was over. I moved out shortly after getting out of the hospital. The best part is that she expected a major settlement from ME. It didn't work out that way.
I met my sweetheart about six months later. We've been together six years and get along great. No, we have not married. We will some day.
When I was in my early twenties I met a beautiful nymphomaniac that was also a great cook. Seriously. She was in her mid thirties and had two children, one each to her first two husbands. The kids were great, she was a LOT of fun, marriage seemed like a good idea. After a while of being married we figured out that our sexual attraction was the ONLY thing that we had in common. We divorced, then ended up living together another year. We just couldn't make it work.
I was single for a long time, lots of dates and relationships, nothing really long term. At age 34 I ran into a girl I had known in high school. (I had dated her best friend.) She seemed sane and stable and we were friends. We married the next year and I figured that we would be married forever. We made it 13 years. We never had children, we both had crazy busy careers, we had grown apart. But I still assumed that we would be together forever. And then I had a major stroke. She didn't come to the hospital. My boss, friends and family traveled in from out of state, she couldn't bother to drive ten miles. I realized that it was over. I moved out shortly after getting out of the hospital. The best part is that she expected a major settlement from ME. It didn't work out that way.
I met my sweetheart about six months later. We've been together six years and get along great. No, we have not married. We will some day.
No, you're being smart. No one in their right mind has time for that kind of nonsense. She's entitled to change her mind. You're entitled to split.
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In most every case, it is failure to talk. The underlying causes may be money, sex, whatever, but people fail to talk before the problem gets too big to deal with.
Oh yeah . Was just looking for clarity on the other poster's position. We cool.
There are probably many reasons. One that I've noticed is menopause. In my circle the menopause divorce is all too common.
People used to be dead by the time they were 60. At least one of them. There also wasn't all the technology available. A vacuum cleaner and a few labor saving devices along those lines make if possible to live as a single person. It used to take two people to maintain a household. One to make the money and one to spend it.
Now it's possible for one person to fulfill both roles,.
This is probably the exact opposite of so many marriages that fail.
Congratulations.
Financial reasons mostly
Theres also the fact that its really easy to get divorced nowadays considering how far away you are to the bible belt. Financial independence of women means they are no longer trapped into a bad marriage ,they make their own money ,probably more than their spouses and they gtfo.And more power to them
Theres also the fact that its really easy to get divorced nowadays considering how far away you are to the bible belt. Financial independence of women means they are no longer trapped into a bad marriage ,they make their own money ,probably more than their spouses and they gtfo.And more power to them
Two people who will be disappointed are a man who expects his girl not to change and a gal who expects her man to change.
This is an over simplification with a kernel of truth in the nugget of the crux of the biscuit.
Selfishness generally describe someone else.
Most folks don't use that word as an auto-descriptor.
