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Crossdressing and bandmates.
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Then you quickly realize that you're the next one up. It happens fast.
To the OP, this band sounds like a great band for you and your desires. I'm all for everyone being happy and comfortable, and I wouldn't be uncomfortable with a CD in my band or as a friend. I hope this all works out for you. You shouldn't have to make yourself less happy to keep others happy... As the saying goes, "nice guys finish last because they never put themselves first".
Good luck.
Good luck.
Hey man, if that's what you're into then by all means go ahead, no one could legally stop you, right?
They damn sure try to sometimes. I ain't even transgendered or gay (Sept for Peter Steel in his prime, but come on), and I've had to put up with a lot of stuff.
The worst thing about it for me is the notion that regardless of who I am, what I do, or how I treat people. There are folks out there who will have nothing to do with me if I change my clothes. Think about how messed up that is.
Hey man, I agree, that's pretty screwy. I disagree with the fashion choice, but I most certainly don't hate you or see you as less of human being because of it and no one should. Treating people like that is the wrong thing to do.
OK, let's talk about a REAL issue here! And I'm not kidding!
Would you wear sweatpants to a gig?
Everywhere I go on the weekends I wear sweatpants unless it's a function. My wife says I embarrass her and to put on some jeans. Hey! I'm comfortable!
So who here would wear sweatpants on stage if they were nice? And if not, why would you be against it? There, I said it, I wear sweatpants and I'm proud!
And this is for real. I'm not kidding.
Would you wear sweatpants to a gig?
Everywhere I go on the weekends I wear sweatpants unless it's a function. My wife says I embarrass her and to put on some jeans. Hey! I'm comfortable!
So who here would wear sweatpants on stage if they were nice? And if not, why would you be against it? There, I said it, I wear sweatpants and I'm proud!
And this is for real. I'm not kidding.
Crossdressing (visibly to others) has an element of performance.
Playing in a band also has an element of performance.
There's been a lot of playing with gender ambiguity in rock'n'roll (and some other genres). Musicians might as well acknowledge this. Lots of things that are uncomfortable at first really aren't a big issue once you deal with other people in person, as people.
Playing in a band also has an element of performance.
There's been a lot of playing with gender ambiguity in rock'n'roll (and some other genres). Musicians might as well acknowledge this. Lots of things that are uncomfortable at first really aren't a big issue once you deal with other people in person, as people.
I've worn matching Red Wings Pajamas to gigs. People dig that home team thing.
Break 'em in gently with a kilt, first.
I wonder how Nick Beggs first put this idea across to his bandmates...?
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Sounds great!
Sounds like you need to start your own thread...
I wonder how Nick Beggs first put this idea across to his bandmates...?
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Sounds great!
Sounds like you need to start your own thread...
Doesn't bother me at all (did the dress thing onstage a couple of times), though the announcement, a couple of decades ago, by the guitarist in the disintegrating R&B band I was playing in to front a last-minute support band wearing basque, stockings & suspenders and heels threw the rest of us into an unholy froth. Sadly, there are no photos of that event cos if there were I'd have them up here in a flash and have a good laugh about it.
Being out here in L.A. and listening to KNAC throughout the late 80's/early 90's, I remembered this band:
Greta was being heavily hyped on the station, as they were one of the local bands they helped discover. Did I care that the singer/guitarist wore a dress? Nope. Still bought the album, still listen to it. Shorts, sweatpants, dress, sock... To me (and that, I think, is the operative phrase) it doesn't matter as long as the music is good and the band is enjoying themselves.
Greta was being heavily hyped on the station, as they were one of the local bands they helped discover. Did I care that the singer/guitarist wore a dress? Nope. Still bought the album, still listen to it. Shorts, sweatpants, dress, sock... To me (and that, I think, is the operative phrase) it doesn't matter as long as the music is good and the band is enjoying themselves.
And the music industry over here took a bit of a stagger when Kevin Rowland (Ex-Dexy's Midnight Runners) offered this new gem to the pop pickers.....
+1. Kudos for asking a potentially divisive question and being a solid enough human being to take the feedback objectively. That's a rare skill.
Best of luck in Fabulous Ferndale, and be sure to post some gig video when you make it to Harpo's! I so miss Detroit...
Definitely approach them in a private, sober moment and then just lay your cards on the table.
Depending on the band it could be no big thing. Rock n' Roll has long been a haven for cross-dressing. It is more generally accepted on stage than at large in public. So if your band has a glam or punk facet to it I think it will go pretty well. Country or southern rock, probably not.
Depending on the band it could be no big thing. Rock n' Roll has long been a haven for cross-dressing. It is more generally accepted on stage than at large in public. So if your band has a glam or punk facet to it I think it will go pretty well. Country or southern rock, probably not.
Not something that would be allowed or tolerated on my scene. Since the reggae scene is rooted in Jamaican culture and Rasta culture, and both of the cultures are strongly anti-LGBT, you'd cause quite a commotion.
I personally could care less how my bandmates dress unless we agree to dress uniformly.
I personally could care less how my bandmates dress unless we agree to dress uniformly.
And are you the official thread police? If so, I want to see a badge.
