Help me craft my exit email

[smurfco]

Dear Wack,

This letter is to inform you that I no longer wish to play music with you. This has nothing at all to do with the fact that you are a noxious, overbearing toad that made every moment we spent together seem like an eternity. I've discovered a new hobby, which is trying to find ways to give myself searing gas pain. So far it's been a lot more fun than playing with you has been.

I would like to say I learned something while playing with you, but I really don't think I did. Wait, that's not entirely true - I learned how to keep a smile on my face and play my part despite feeling myself slowly dying inside from sheer despair. A useful skill to help keep myself alive in case I am ever taken hostage by the IRA. So thanks for that.

I wish you and the gang continued success.

 

[aprod]

You are way overthinking this, a mere thanks "its been a good run" and goodbye should suffice.

 

[Geddaric]

Goodbye, all you people.
There`s nothing you can say
to make me change my mind......Goodbye!

 

[lermgalieu]

Nobody's scared. Some things don't need to be done in person. Quitting a band when you don't really care much about whether they like you or not afterward is one of those things, at least for me, especially if it's a very long drive to do it in person, anyway.

There are so many scenarios where in-person is the least kind thing to do. Putting someone on the spot in front of others can lead people to do or say things in front of others they'll later regret. Why embarrass someone? Sheesh. It's ok and perhaps kinder to do many things in writing and give people a chance to come to grips with their reactions in private.

I don't see any need to be "in person" either, however (and maybe it's the lawyer in me), as noted above, I would always do this verbally if there is anything to be said other than "So long and thanks for all the fish." Dirty laundry should not be written down, IMO. But a phone call certainly suffices for this (not a text, not an email, not a SnapChat, etc.)

 

[rtslinger]

5.5 years with this band. Mostly good. Some really large venues. But I'm tired of the BS. My tolerance level is low for the nonsense eminating from the husband and wife who run the band. I have some inner anger and I won't go into the details. I simply want to finish the two large gigs that are in the next two weekends and to leave on a high note and with grace. I want something more than the typical "it's time for me to move on and I wish you the best of luck" message. Anyone want to assist me?

It's been real, adios

 

[Doug P]

Seems like you have been with the “couple” for a while. You must have a good / long song list right ? How often do you guys rehearse? Remember, if rehearsals are here and there and gigs whenever….. how often and how much are ya really around “them” ?? I can only speak for myself, a couple rehearsals a month, I can handle. Mouth shut and go thru the set list or…..
Gigs, show up, play and leave.
Think of say Van Halen…. Story goes they hated each other yet they did the show.
But you know when it’s time. Have another group set up or just letting it go until ….
Like others said, keep it “nice” ya never know

 

[mike buzzetti]

Im FxxIN BORED Im out , later

 

[The Gear Guru]

 

[Bass Viking]

This. All of this. Keep it simple and to the point. Adding "reasons" opens the door to promises of change if you just give them a chance.

Well said. And any changes will probably only last a couple of weeks.

 

[BobKos]

Tell them you found a band that will enthusiastically play '24 Karat Magic' or whatever tune you have repeatedly suggested that they have ungraciously shot down every time.

 

[Alan Wrench]

It’s not you, it’s me.

 

[ELG60]

i think this will be similar, except that the lead singer is a bit childish (and on her third marriage. definitely a bit emotional, controlling and high maintenance). she might take a parting shot at me. but it doesn't matter. I'm going to not fire back. I'm leaving this with grace and dignity.

I find it difficult to believe that a lead singer could be childish, controlling, AND high maintenance. Methinks this whole thing is a troll post.

In light of that, my amended email would be: Well folks, it finally happened . . . My draft notice arrived and I ship out to the Nam right after our second gig. I'll get back in contact with y'all on my DEROS.

 

[TinyE]

dear so-n-so,
can we talk in person?

signed,
so-n-so

 

[MegaSwing]

‘I want to pursue other opportunities, and I’ll need more time to do it. Look, y’all were great, but this is important to me.’

No muss. No fuss.

Do NOT pee in the punchbowl! You have no idea how, when, or if being on good terms with them will be good for you.

 

[toddsterbassist]

 

[Confunk]

The heck with an e-mail or text. I suggest delivering a SPEECH.
Here's a suggestion, if I may:

 

[baileyboy]

I disagree with those who are saying you should tell them "how you feel about the BS" and such. Would you leave a job this way? That's a great way to burn bridges, nothing good will come of it except venting.

Since you've known them for over 5 years, you really should do this in person. It is pretty tacky to make your exit via email/text. Though if you insist, I would keep it short and positive. One last note... you don't need to give a reason for leaving. You just are.

Example:

"Hey guys... I wanted to let you know that I'm going to be moving on after the gigs we already have scheduled. It's been a great 5.5 years, and I appreciate the experience gigging with you guys. All my best".

... or something like that.

 

[red_rhino]

"Hi guys.
Just wanted to confirm that I'll be leaving the band after the next two dates booked.
It's been mostly fun and a pleasure working with you, despite our differences.
I wish you all the best in the future."

Perfect, IMO. If/when they ask for further explanation, “Because I want to.” If they continue to push, “Do you want me to stay for the next two gigs or not?”

"I want to spend more time with my family"

“I want to spend less time with your family.” Fixed.

 

[Carl Hillman]

5.5 years with this band. Mostly good. Some really large venues. But I'm tired of the BS. My tolerance level is low for the nonsense eminating from the husband and wife who run the band. I have some inner anger and I won't go into the details. I simply want to finish the two large gigs that are in the next two weekends and to leave on a high note and with grace. I want something more than the typical "it's time for me to move on and I wish you the best of luck" message. Anyone want to assist me?

Call them the next day after your last gig and just tell them you're done.
You don't necessarily owe them an explanation as to why you're quitting, if you don't want to get into it.

 

[wysiwyg248]

It’s not you, it’s me.

That's stealing from George Costanza LOL