If you are playing bass and find enjoyment in what you do, you're doing it right.
Agree most of all with the last line. I am a horrible bassist. I took up bass because after 34 years of playing guitar and not having "guitarist's hands," I mute strings I don't want to, and it makes me horrible, at least to my ear. I'm picking up bass more readily, but here's the big picture to me:
Music takes me places where other things in life don't. Music makes me happy. Happiness is a tough thing for me to grab by the neck and force it to keep me company. Music has an uncanny ability to invite happiness into my head and coaxes it into sticking around.
The first 8 bars of "Watching the Wheels" makes me incredibly happy. The first 8 bars of "Radar Love" makes me happy. Same for a few notes here and there from songs like, What Is And What Should Never Be, Ramble On, Money, Wild Night, Hey Joe, I'm Not In Love, Penny Lane, Rain, Paperback Writer, Hello it's me, Ballad of John and Yoko, Slit skirts, Jail break, Everyday I write the book, Blinded by the light (by Springsteen), Radio Free Europe, The Royal Scam, Down On Main Street, Silly Love Songs, Rundgren's In Your Eyes, Jim Croce's Operator, The Dead's Ramble On Rose, Deacon Blues, Just a girl, Short skirt long jacket, Werewolves of London, Longview, Santeria, The Things We Do For Love, The Cars' Touch and Go, Tin Man by America, With A Little Help From My Friends, and maybe a few hundred others.
OP, I hear your question, I understand your concern and appreciate the need for resolution, but in MY world; I could give less of a poopie about backseats, stations in life, and the definition of "Real" when it comes to the bass or any other instrument. I'm in this for the happiness. Music makes me happy.
The lyric "Drink scotch whisky all night long, and die behind the wheel," makes me forget about life. The guitar solo in The Cars' Touch and Go makes me giddy. That's MORE than good enough for me.
Thanks for letting me ramble.