So I haven't left The Earthmen yet, I was a little warped at our BL, but when talking it over with my wife, who's lived here all her life, my attention was brought to the fact that the scene here is somewhat different than the one I grew up in (Miami). It's more social in a sharing way. Which, for my idea of what a band is, doesn't work so much!
Only a band that was very established would bring another group up for a mini set, or have someone up to sit in for a couple songs. Bands striving for their place on the scene would never do that. There was always a friendly rivalry between bands- like walking in the club in your number and going to stand right in front of your rivals mid-set, arms folded, stone faced. Waiting for them to blow a clam!

They'd see you coming, of course, lol.
Here they drag each other up and play a tune they can belt or blow a solo on. Different ethic. Not mine, I prefer the heavy thing, the competitive thing. I think it's a good tension, and then after you make them screw up you buy them a beer and have a laugh.
So anyway I'm an Earthman for now. In ways we've gotten pretty good, and I can get us to play tunes I think we'd be good at, and that's been working out. I just need a project of my own, finally...Bass VI and a drummer. I need a drummer. Maybe another bass player...
Enough about me, lol.