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Would you date someone with HIV?

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#81
I'd make up my own mind. If She/He works in a hospital and got it there.... Even if he/she is a player..... It's up to you....

Sometimes two people hit it off and what they achieve together can't be matched by anything else.

Just be carefull though!!
 
#82
blastoff99 said:
This is a good point.

Although we all take risks in our lives, starting with getting out of bed in the morning, there are certain risks we can mitigate.

I ride a motorcycle. This is a known risk, and a significant one. I choose to mitigate the risk by always wearing protective gear, and never riding when angry or tired. I don't drink, so that eliminates the possibility of riding drunk. Still, plenty of risk remains. I accept it, and so does my husband. This is a choice we've made.

Having sex is a risk. Certain things can happen. There are ways to minimize the chances of these things, but there's enough stories of "Oh wow, this was a surprise" to lead me to believe that nothing's perfect. It seems like having a sexual relationship with someone with HIV is similar to me deciding to go riding without my helmet right after closing time at the bars and while tired and pissed. In the snow. With bald tires. I've just upped the odds of something going tragically wrong, for no good reason.

Just my $.02.
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MITIGATE.....I spent a good 5 minutes manipulating that damn thing trying to remember that stupid word.
Lol....just wouldn't come to me, and I finally just reworded it.
Also loved the motorcycle analogy, but would have added.....on flat tires, blind folded, intoxicated, inebriated, asleep, sitting backwards, with the throttle stuck wide open. :D
 
#86
i_got_a_mohawk said:
Still early days and it isn't fully understood why they aren't showing HIV, the transplants were for cancer treatment IIRC so the cancer could have also played a role (however, a cure would be awesome!)
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A cure will never happen. There is no money in killing the disease. There is however, TONS of money to be made in drugs to keep said person alive and well.
 
#91
1958Bassman said:
You want to be involved with someone who has used IV drugs or other risky behavior? I don't. How about someone who doesn't/didn't particularly care who they screwed?
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No. I didn't say that. I was just curious why since, for me, the fact she is HIV positive would be reason enough by itself to say "I'm sorry, no.". Getting into the how and why would be irrelevant to me. That's why I was curious.

1958Bassman said:
That's not something I want to deal with. Someone who has been involved in these is also a candidate for HepC and many other diseases I don't want. If the person considering the relationship has a problem with these activities, it will raise questions about the carrier's lifestyle choices and IMO, it's perfectly valid to want to know.
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As a general rule I've never been one to pass my time with people that did drugs, drank too much, or who liked to sleep around. I've been around enough to have been around those people and know to avoid them. So, if I know they're into any risky behavior (IME most people who are aren't shy about letting others know), it's an automatic "No" before the issue of STD's even comes up.

I've been uber careful, to the point that Other than my wife, I've only been with one other person, and we were together 10yrs. The rest of the time, I'd been celibate. Not for everyone, I know, but I've always been neurotic about not getting diseases and always only wanted to be with one person anyway.

Again, just me. I'm a bit odd socially. My wife is the last person I'll ever be in any kind of relationship with. That's just how I'm wired.

*General Statement*: Since I'm heterosexual, my examples are always female. No disrespect to anyone who's sexual preferences are other than my own. That said, those participating here who disagree with my preference, please show a little respect by not editing my posts. I don't edit yours. Respect is a two way street, those who expect it need to show it.

Thank you in advance.
 
#92
1SHOT1HIT said:
Sorry to sound insensitive, I am very aware that it sounds that way, just being honest with my opinion.
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I don't think you were being insensitive. The saying goes "The truth hurts", and it's true. Another way to say it is: "An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.", only in this case, there is no cure.
 
#93
curbowkid said:
Lets add another color to this rainbow.

Recently two men who had a bone marrow transfusion or whatever had their HIV effectivly wiped out completely.

Discuss!
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I'd like to see links to Medical Journals or similar publications stating this as having actually happened, and a reasonably detailed description of how they think it happened.

Also, have you ever had bone marrow taken out (never mind a transfusion)? I have. It hurts like hell! I'll stick with avoiding potentially needing something so drastic, thanks.
 
#95
The thing is, given the time constraints and the group of people that one could possibly date ( age group, social economic status, attracted to them etc.), if I were single I would have an infinite amount of women to choose from, (mathematically, I don't have enough time to date them all so thus infinite) so if I knew that someone had HIV or any sexually transmitted disease I wouldn't date them. Too many possible dating partners to compromise.
 
#96
xshawnxearthx said:
A cure will never happen. There is no money in killing the disease. There is however, TONS of money to be made in drugs to keep said person alive and well.
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This argument can also be (and has been) made about Cancer, Diabetes, Arthritis, and any other autoimmune disease you can think of. Basically, if there's a treatment for something, and a large percentage of people have it, then the argument can be (and often is) made that too much money is being made treating it to even try to cure it.

Consider this: AIDS is a virus. Viruses mutate and change. So, a "cure" for one strain may not even qualify as a treatment for another strain. AIDS and HIV are highly avoidable. Unless you work in a high risk field (Medical / research, etc) you almost have to go looking for it to contract it.

Cancer, heart disease, most autoimmune diseases, etc are not so easily avoided.
 
#97
Mike N said:
The real world is there's a 100% mortality rate for humans, too. Having AIDS just moves you closer to the front of the line.

To answer the OP, no I would not.
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Yeah, life is a zero sum game.... no one gets out alive. Still, that doesn't mean I'm just going to step into traffic without looking simply because I'm going to die someday anyway.

There are some pretty horrific ways to die, AIDS is fairly high on that list.
 
#98
Munjibunga said:
Absurd. There's megatons of money to be made from finding a cure.
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It's not absurd at all. Big Pharma loves a drug that they can sell you for the rest of your life, simple dollars and sense and they are in the business of making money. You need only look at the dangerous drugs that have been put out on the market that have killed and injured people despite there being a federal approval process.
 
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Phil Smith said:
It's not absurd at all. Big Pharma loves a drug that they can sell you for the rest of your life, simple dollars and sense and they are in the business of making money. You need only look at the dangerous drugs that have been put out on the market that have killed and injured people despite there being a federal approval process.
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You honestly think that Big Pharma has the cure for cancer or AIDS and they'd simply rather charge people money?
 
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