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Crazy ex-girlfriend

#362
blastoff99 said:
This. Also, in some jurisdictions, the police are *required* to haul somebody in when they're sent to a domestic violence call. They can't just issue warnings and leave; one of the parties is going downtown. Unless there's visible blood or a compelling story, my guess is that it'll be the guy taking the ride in the cruiser.
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Actually, it if someone is injured, somebody is going to get arrested. Due to circumstances of domestic violence, the victim is not willing to press charges, for obvious reasons.
 
#364
Soooooooooooo (for those of you following along) the girl I mentioned a few pages ago struck again.
(For those of you not following she has hounded me for years after we broke up. she bought me a sailboat, followed me across a state, and contacted me on MY wedding day and HER wedding day.)

Well, I have been married for several years now and have two children. She has been married for a few years now. This weekend she sent me a Happy Birthday text at 1:30 a.m.

Recap. We've been broken up for going on a decade now. We have both dated several other people since. We have both gotten married since. I have children. I have explained to her that not only do I not wish to be her friend, but that I think she is bat$#!t crazy and should get help.
 
#366
placedesjardins said:
Actually, it if someone is injured, somebody is going to get arrested. Due to circumstances of domestic violence, the victim is not willing to press charges, for obvious reasons.
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It goes beyond that in some jurisdictions, IIRC. I'm pretty sure that if the police get called in Seattle for a domestic violence situation, and the officer believes something happened, somebody is getting a ride in a cop car, injuries or no.

Yep. Here it is, from Seattle's website:

The law requires a police officer responding to an incident of domestic violence to make an arrest if the officer has probable cause to believe that a domestic violence assault or other serious domestic violence offense was committed within the previous four hours.

So, to the OP and others: if the cop thinks something happened to somebody, and your girlfriend is crazier than you but not so nuts as to be completely unbelievable when the cops show up, you're going to jail. Sounds fun.

Of course, the law is likely different where you are. Still.
 
#367
In Michigan, if officers respond to a domestic, someone goes to jail, doesn't matter if anyone got hurt. Of course, sometimes the officers will make a judgement call and give a warning - but this is usually when it involves a child who has lost control. I have had several clients over the years who have had ex's who were good at getting them in trouble - one I remember, his then wife got mad at him in the parking lot of a store. She reaches over and squeezes his package as hard as she can, apparently doing some damage. Then, she slams her head into the steering wheel of the car, opening up a gash in her forehead, gets out of the car and starts screaming that he had assaulted her. He went to jail for several months. He had many more stories of their time together, but this was one of the worst. Also the last. He divorced her, but she managed to clean him out of everything he had. Used all kinds of tactics to make him look bad. She was a master. He found out later that she had done this to 2 previous husbands he had not known about before, and had heard she had gotten at least one more after him. Scary stuff. He was just glad to be rid of her.
 
#368
two fingers said:
She has been married for a few years now. This weekend she sent me a Happy Birthday text at 1:30 a.m.

I have explained to her that not only do I not wish to be her friend, but that I think she is bat$#!t crazy and should get help.
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I have a hard time believing you aren't somehow perpetuating this:

How does she know your cell number and why wouldn't you change it even if she got it in a legitimate way?

Not judging, just sayin'
 
#369
SR505bassman said:
In Michigan, if officers respond to a domestic, someone goes to jail, doesn't matter if anyone got hurt. Of course, sometimes the officers will make a judgement call and give a warning - but this is usually when it involves a child who has lost control. I have had several clients over the years who have had ex's who were good at getting them in trouble - one I remember, his then wife got mad at him in the parking lot of a store. She reaches over and squeezes his package as hard as she can, apparently doing some damage. Then, she slams her head into the steering wheel of the car, opening up a gash in her forehead, gets out of the car and starts screaming that he had assaulted her. He went to jail for several months. He had many more stories of their time together, but this was one of the worst. Also the last. He divorced her, but she managed to clean him out of everything he had. Used all kinds of tactics to make him look bad. She was a master. He found out later that she had done this to 2 previous husbands he had not known about before, and had heard she had gotten at least one more after him. Scary stuff. He was just glad to be rid of her.
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Never happened to me, but I have a few friends who have been victimized like that. Self inflicted injuries to get the man sent to jail.
 
#371
blastoff99 said:
It goes beyond that in some jurisdictions, IIRC. I'm pretty sure that if the police get called in Seattle for a domestic violence situation, and the officer believes something happened, somebody is getting a ride in a cop car, injuries or no.

Yep. Here it is, from Seattle's website:

The law requires a police officer responding to an incident of domestic violence to make an arrest if the officer has probable cause to believe that a domestic violence assault or other serious domestic violence offense was committed within the previous four hours.

So, to the OP and others: if the cop thinks something happened to somebody, and your girlfriend is crazier than you but not so nuts as to be completely unbelievable when the cops show up, you're going to jail. Sounds fun.

Of course, the law is likely different where you are. Still.
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I'm an ex-cop from a department in Virginia. When it comes to domestic violence, you talk to both parties, at least if you can. Sometimes, the aggressor leaves before we show up. I had not been to one, but sometimes the victim in unconscious or dead on arrival. You get your probable cause from the totality of the circumstances. Sign of injury is one. It's tougher to figure out if both people were hitting each other, both have injuries and both are lying to the cops? Who's bigger? Who started it? So, I went to multiple domestic calls where the woman is the aggressor and she's the one who gets arrested. I've been to calls where both parties were yelling but no one hit each other and no one gets arrested.
In the cases where it's hard to tell but someone gets arrested, it all gets figured out in court.
 
#373
I had to call the cops on the crazy girl once that I posted about earlier in this thread. She was trying to drink herself to death and when that didn't seem to work fast enough, I came home from work one night to find she had cut her wrists (perpendicularly, not parallel, but still somewhat impressively deep) when I explained to her that we needed to go to the hospital immediately, she refused. I then told her she could let me take her or I would call 911. She refused, so I called.

It was crazy, they brought a hook and ladder, an ambulance and three cruisers. Which once they sorted out the story (5150) we were left with one cruiser and two cops in our living room playing good cop bad cop and trying to shake us down. I eventually got the two cops out the door with her in the back of the squad car and one cop standing on my front lawn lecturing me on how I should best handle the situation by packing up her stuff and putting it on the front lawn and how I should notice how what a nice guy he was because he didn't put her in cuffs. :rolleyes: I thanked him for his help and the three of them went on their way. Now I look back on it and I can't believe any of that really happened. Live and learn.
 
#374
nojj said:
Heh

Eons ago when we were still a young married couple,
we took a walk in a local park, and got accosted by a mugger.
Before I could react, she kneecapped him, put him down and proceeded to give him the boot.......... a lot.
Had to drag her away: she wanted another go at it.
(he was still moving slightly.)
I've seen hard-core bikers do less damage.
I looked at her funny for about a year after that.:hmm:
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At that point the guy should have known better than to continue twitching. That will rile the she bear up every time.
 
#380
stingray2112 said:
Thankfully I've never had to call the cops on any of my previous relationships. On a good note I reconnected with a girl on Saturday night that I hadn't seen in a long time and we're going out this weekend.
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that's awesome, as long as the current nutcase isn't stalking you. If she is there could be fire works!

Some extremely entertaining reading on this thread, thanks to all the contributors.
 

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